Spammers do not shrink from using God in this scam, asserting that it is God or fate that has created the meeting, neither do they refrain from using words and phrases that accurately describe sexual acts with their virtual partners and the sensations from it, all with the purpose of forming, in one way or another, a strongly intimate bond with the victims.
Some scammers have infinite patience, grooming the victim for more than a year to gain their trust before sending a request for money. They may ask for money for various reasons and often these are very credible, for example; They can ask for money because they have to undergo a medical examination, or to enable them to obtain a visa and pay for the travel costs to visit the person targeted, or say they are prisoners in the hotel in which they reside because they have had a problem with their credit cards and cannot leave until they pay the bill, or are hospitalized and cannot pay for their hospital care. Some pretend to be soldiers on active duty who need money to return home (something that no soldier on active duty in a western army would need), or maybe they say that they need money to phone or have a box full of money that is at customs and that a tax must be paid to the authorities to release it … in short so many stories … and all are credible … all clearly come with the full promise that the victim will be paid back!! Upon receipt of the sum of money from the victim the scammer often disappears and only at this juncture does the victim realize that they have been duped. However, if they think they can get away with it, depending on how deeply they think the victim has fallen, they may make excuses as to why the first amount was not enough and make further requests. This is why you must tell the authorities as soon as you become aware that the situation is a scam – be strong, at least seek advice from your friends, don’t be ashamed, if they are true friends they will help you.
The scammer who stays in contact after the first money has been sent will often, when discovered and confronted by the victim, admit to using the money for another credible reason and still swear to be in love with the duped person. Many victims want to believe this. From that moment, despite discovering the stark truth, the victim begins to display even stronger feelings for the scammer which they think can in some way will be reciprocated. Not wanting to admit defeat or failure and thinking that, almost like having made a failed investment, it might come good with a bit more effort or money. The scammer then continues to work to consolidate the love and trust of the victim. The next move is a concrete request inviting the person to go to the scammer’s country of origin. It is implied that this visit is intended to further strengthen their relationship but, in most cases, the victim is forced to remain in that foreign country, often in Africa, against their will. There have also been stories reported of women who have traveled to Nigeria to meet the man of their dreams that have ended up in kidnapping and rape. There are very few victims who speak of what really happened and so, for the moment, it is not possible to verify the accuracy of this information.